Unconventional but worth exploring! Welcoming your dark side.


Had an interesting chat with Sho Jivraj this morning. As always she is full of incredible knowledge. I mentioned my feeling “incomplete” somehow for some reason, all weekend I felt “Blah”.

All good …. no reason to feel bad about anything…amazing business, great friends, love my home, son doing great, daschunds, being… well daschunds. Yet I could not help but feel this heaviness….Sholina explained to me about the last moon cycle.

We had a new moon last night, I have to be honest my lunar cycle knowledge is not that sophisticated. I do believe that it does affect us in some way. I remember when I worked in Corporate HR, something wonky always happened on the full moon. Real or imagined it did not fail.

Stay with me this gets interesting….

According to the Shamans:

Think of the moon’s positioning as a metaphor for your own life. The new moon marks the start of a new lunar cycle and is the time when the sun illuminates the side of the moon we never see.

Like the moon, there’s a side of you that most people never see. These are your hopes, your dreams, your fears, your wishes, and your desires – the things you scarcely share with others.

In shamanism, this side of you is known as your shadow side.

We all have a shadow side, it’s part of what makes us balanced. And we can see that even the moon has a shadow side.

Our shadow side is simply all that we choose to keep hidden and unexposed from the world – good or bad.

As the moon travels around the earth, starting at new moon and progressing towards full moon, the part that we see becomes less and less hidden, and more and more exposed.

You can see this in the sky as more and more of the moon becomes visible to us during this progression.

If we choose to, we can use the moon’s energy as a sort of buddy system to help us do the same thing.

Our shadow, as Carl Jung’s theories tell us:

In Jungian psychology, “shadow” or “shadow aspect” may refer to (1) an unconscious aspect of the personality which the conscious ego does not identify in itself. In short, the shadow is the “dark side”.

Because one tends to reject or remain ignorant of the least desirable aspects of one’s personality, the shadow is largely negative, or (2) the entirety of the unconscious, i.e., everything of which a person is not fully conscious.

There are, however, positive aspects which may also remain hidden in one’s shadow (especially in people with low self-esteem, anxieties, and false beliefs). To know yourself, you must accept your dark side. To deal with others’ dark sides, you must also know your dark side.

Owning and honouring our Darkness:

We can use the moon’s energy to help our hopes and desires, or our fears and worries, to become less and less hidden and to bring them forth from out of the shadow.

The energy of the new moon can be used to bring all the things you wish would happen and desire to happen up from out of your hidden shadow side and into your reality.

You can illuminate and bring forth your hopes and desires – all you have to do is disentangle them from the fears and worries also hanging out on your own dark side of the moon.

Slowly coming out of the fog.

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Young-Eisendrath, P. and Dawson, T. (1997). The Cambridge Companion to Jung., Cambridge University Press, p. 319


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